Monday, July 7, 2014

Success and Failure in Life

Everything I needed to know about success I learned from the Tortoise and the Hare.

Ok. Not that one.

This one.

It's a classic story and one that has been told to children ever since Aesop "wrote" it centuries ago. Everyone uses it to teach kids that speed doesn't necessarily win the race, that slow and steady wins.

Recently, I started looking at this simple fable and little differently. It's not about speed or steadiness. It's about not giving up. It's about not taking what you have for granted. It's about what one person can do if they put their mind to it. Slow or fast, you will get to the end if you just keep trying and putting one foot in front of the other. Just like the tortoise.

Anyway this all started from a series of tweets back in June.

There were other tweets that day where I waxed philosophically about writing and success and failure, but these three tweets are what it comes down to. If you try to attain your goals, you are succeeding whether you reach them or not. Goals are just the pie in the sky "I want to get there" kind of thing. One of my goals is to be a better person. I will never reach this goal. Not that I can't be a good person, only that I am always striving to be a better person.

At the last Academy Awards, Matthew McConaughey gave an acceptance speech that some people hated and others loved. Whatever your feelings about it, I remember one part of it where he said:
So you see every day, every week, every month and every year of my life, my hero’s always 10 years away. I’m never gonna be my hero. I’m not gonna attain that. I know I’m not, and that’s just fine with me because that keeps me with somebody to keep on chasing.

A lot of people thought he was being self-centered. He wasn't. His goal was to always be a better person tomorrow than he was today. I have that same goal in all aspects of my life. It gives me something to focus on. To dream about. To want. To be that person in 10 years that is better than the person I am today. The moment I stop trying is the moment I fail. It's the moment I die.

If I keep striving, I will always succeed. This is why I don't view not reaching an arbitrary goal during the month a failure. Those are just sign-posts on the way to getting better. So whether it's #writemotivation, NaNoWriMo, weight loss, Grad School, or some other goal I've set for myself. I succeed because I made the effort.

These are my #writemotivation goals for the month. I don't have writing on here because I'm writing something under my penname.
  1. Beta reading two revised novels
  2. Cheer on my #writemotivation peeps!
  3. Try to get some real blogging in
  4. Do gradschool homework.

'Till Next Time

Friday, June 20, 2014

COVER REVEAL: WILD by Sophie Jordan

Today, again, I get to host the lovely and amazing Sophie Jordan. This time, a cover reveal for her newest book, WILD. WILD is the third and final book of her IVY CHRONICLES series. If you like hot and steamy NA, this is definitely the series for you.
Sophie Jordan is an international and New York Times bestselling author whose books include historical romances and the Firelight series. When she’s not writing, she spends her time overloading on caffeine (lattes preferred), talking plotlines with anyone who will listen (including her kids), and cramming her DVR with true-crime and reality-television shows. She lives in Houston.
Sophie can be found on Twitter and Facebook.






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A good girl goes bad in the third and final book in New York Times bestselling author Sophie Jordan’s sexy New Adult romance series—where three Ivy League suite-mates testing their boundaries as they seek higher knowledge of just how far they can go.

Months after her boyfriend dumped her, Georgia can still hear the insults he hurled at her. Boring. Predictable. Tame. Tired of feeling bad, she’s ready to change her image, and go a little wild. What better way to prove her ex wrong than a hot night of adventure at the secret campus kink club?

In the shadowy den of the club, she unexpectedly runs into Logan Mulvaney, her friend’s little brother. A player extraordinaire too hot for his own good, he may be younger, but the guy is light years ahead when it comes to the opposite sex. Now he’s telling her to go home-”good girls” don’t belong here!

Georgia is tired of having others define her. She’s going to teach Logan a lesson he won’t forget-one white hot, mind-wrecking kiss . . . that leads to another . . . and another . . . and. . . . Realizing she’s way in over her head, Georgia runs.

Only Logan won’t let her go. Everywhere she goes he’s there, making her want every inch of him. Making her forget who she is. Who he is. And just how wrong they are for each other.

Tuesday, June 17, 2014

Cover Reveal : DRAWN TO YOU by Angi Black

Today I get to host the cover reveal for my dear friend, Angi. Angi is awesome, support, and wonderful. And now she's going to be a published author!!! And because she's so freaking fantabulous, I agreed to not only be a part of her cover reveal, I also decided to be a part of her street team!! Because, you know, she's awesome and I want to promote her stuff (and get the inside scoop on all the awesome). <--note the ulterior motive.

Anyway, here's the wonderful Angie
Angi Black is a dancer, a singer, a pirate, a poet. One of those is a lie. She writes New Adult and Adult and owns her own editing business, Wise Owl Words. She also teaches dance and theater all while baking treats and greening up the world around her. She loves music and donuts. She's Team Damon and her muse is Joseph Gordon-Levitt. Gene Kelley. Whedonite. Coffee. Ambassador of Awesome. Bourbon. Beatles. Zeppelin. Mraz. Queen of useless trivial knowledge. Betty White is her spirit animal. Her patronus is a chorus of back-up dancers singing Don't Rain on my Parade. Angi blogs at The Writer Diaries, All The Write Notes, and Indie Ignites. She even has a fancy website.


And now for the cover....

which is amazing.....

and gorgeous.....

Shy Ellie Baylor goes away to college in an attempt to escape her overbearing and zealously religious parents. In between dodging their daily phone call and lugging her oversized art portfolio across campus, she manages to be happy, mostly by avoiding any kind of social interaction. Then she meets River Daniels, the hot guy she's secretly been ogling in her art classes.

River is understanding and sexy, and their connection quickly grows.  However, a lifetime of listening to her parents has left Ellie uncertain not only about herself, but her relationship with River. Their blatant disapproval of River and her choices leave Ellie with the hardest choice she's ever faced- her parents' approval or the love of her life. 

But can Ellie lose either and still learn to live?

DRAWN TO YOU comes out August 19th anywhere and everywhere ebooks are sold.

'Til next time

Wednesday, June 11, 2014

Guest Post: BEHIND THE SCENES by Dahlia Adler

So today I have the honor of hosting the lovely, and talented, Dahlia Adler. Her debut novel, BEHIND THE SCENES, comes out June 24th. I have a copy in my hot little hands, so you can all be jealous.

After hounding* her both privately, and publicly, like a paparazzi on the hunt for the latest celeb scandal, I managed to get her undivided attention...

*in the spirit of full disclosure there was no "hounding" per-say, but a couple emails were sent back and forth. Don't tell anyone or it will ruin my street cred.

Anyway, I got to ask her a question.

No. It wasn't "Will you go out with me?" or "If not, maybe we could have some coffee?" or "Ok. You walk down the street and I'll stand over here and talk to myself and not look at you." And it definitely wasn't "What does 'Restraining Order' mean?"

Ok. Seriously?

My question was simple "Where did the idea for this story come from and what steps did you take to research it?" It's always fascinating to hear the story behind the story. What started it and stuff like that. Anyway, she obliged. So here is her answer.

Dahlia Adler is an Assistant Editor of Mathematics by day, a Copy Editor by night, and a YA author and blogger at every spare moment in between. You can find her on Twitter at @MissDahlELama, and blogging The Daily Dahlia, YA Misfits, and Barnes & Noble. She lives in New York City with her husband and their overstuffed bookshelves. Behind the Scenes is her debut novel.

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Behind the Scenes

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Where did the idea for this story come from and what steps did you take to research it?
The funny thing for me about Behind the Scenes is I actually have pretty strong memories of the early days of formulation—piecing together bits of the idea, getting up in the middle of the night to type up a query letter that seemed to come into my brain fully formed—but not what prompted the idea itself in the first place. I can tell you pieces of inspiration—the new 90210, definitely, and certain events from my own life—but not where the initial idea sprang from.

Like most stories, though, it got padded with associations and influences along the way. A huge one was Jen Calonita’s YA series “Secrets of My Hollywood Life.” It’s different in many ways—it’s narrated by the celebrity herself, it’s a six-book series, it’s geared toward a younger audience—but it was a great thing to read to get the perspectives of the characters who would be secondary in my own book. Plus, Calonita has great experience in entertainment journalism, and I was still in the early stages of research.

Research is sort of a tricky thing when you don’t have insider access, but it’s amazing the difference the Internet can make. I’ve been to LA, which is where the book is set, but I definitely still needed LA-resident input and Google Earth, and that’s despite making up one of the neighborhoods in the book. YouTube was also invaluable for behind-the-scenes (heh) videos with actors on set. And when you’re writing about celebs being besieged by paparazzi, actually looking through tons of tabloid photos helps too…no matter how dirty it makes you feel!

The truth is that the process of writing any book has so much potential to evolve as you’re doing it, and the more TV I watched, the more tabloids I read, and the more news stories broke, the more I observed Hollywood as an outsider, the more the story changed. And after all that, I’m really excited that the finished product is finally coming out into the world, and hope people love it as much as I do!

So there you have it. The behind the scenes to Behind the Scenes. That's very meta.

'Till Next Time